5 Tips to Talk to Kids about Alcohol

This post is sponsored by Ask, Listen, Learn: Kids and Alcohol Don’t Mix, a program of Responsibility.org. All opinions are my own. This group is a not-for-profit organization working to fight underage drinking that I’m proud to work with.

“Kids grow so fast!” are words nearly every parent has spoken at one time or another. For me, this rings true every time I scroll through the thousands of photos on my phone and my Dropbox to find images to use whenever I share stories in my blog posts and personal Instagram account.

The truth is that my kids are becoming exactly the type of humans they are meant to be, which is more important than ever that I continue to pour my hindsight knowledge in my parenting. This means, that my husband and I must simply make it a priority to spend more quality time with them to talk to them about the things that matter, in ways and at places they like.

fuentes family

One topic we talk about often is alcohol, the dangers of underage drinking, and responsible drinking. I’ve written about this on this blog before; from how I approach the subject with my youngest kids, my exchange students, and how we continue to do so as our kids are growing older.

If bringing up the topic of underage drinking and alcohol is difficult for you; or perhaps you don’t always know how to get started, where, or when to bring it up, below is a quick video I’ve made with my family about how we talk to our kids about it as a family.

I’m really proud to have built a community online where I can share this type of topics that are important to me –and like-minded parents. Parenting is hard. And while the internet provides an opportunity for discussion, it’s also a place where a lot of parents feel judged and pressured to live a certain way.

For my husband and I, parenting our children doesn’t mean being the “cool parent” on the block. Quite the opposite. We are very “un-cool” often –especially with our kids- since we feel the responsibility of leading our children to live their best life and become kind human beings.

fuentes family doing karate

Between homeschooling, my husband quitting his corporate job of 15 years in healthcare to join me in my company, and choosing to not sign our kids up for half a dozen activities (against the advice of many of our friends) and only doing Karate as a family; I know we are different than most, but I feel that what we have is special.

Spending so much time together as a family unit has made my husband and I reevaluate our commitments and only say “yes” to things we consider important. This lifestyle requires us to be very flexible and having an open mind to the opportunities that are in front of us.

As you saw from the video, having partnered with Responsibility.org for a couple of years now, has equipped me to have better conversations around the topic of alcohol as well as having a much more honest approach with my kids. We often share stories with our kids (minus some of the gory details) about the stupid mistakes both mom and dad made when they were in high school and college, and nearly always our stupidity stemmed from the consumption of alcohol.

Our goal as parents is to be around to celebrate their milestones and keeping things real for our kids is, and will always be, how we approach life. I’m not someone that hides or makes assumptions about what our kids know and don’t already. And even when I get the “oh, mom! I know about that already,” I make sure to acknowledge that they know about it some, but not everything about it.

How do you talk to your kids about alcohol? Do you have any helpful tips?

 

April 30, 2018

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Janna Chen - May 8, 2018 Reply

I’m really bad about taking to my kids. I just freeze up. Like I think I need to set special time but you make it seem normal. My parents didn’t talk to me about anything (sex, drug, alcohol). They just said “don’t do it”. Thanks for tips.

Dara - May 8, 2018 Reply

Another great Parenting post.

Mandy - May 8, 2018 Reply

I’ve been trying to talk to my kids more about alcohol since it runs in my family. Thank you for continuing to write about this message. I’ve been reading your blog for years and I love it.

Selena - May 8, 2018 Reply

great tips. Thank you for sharing your openess with us!

Matt - May 8, 2018 Reply

My father was an alcoholic and my other just “hid” all the things. His abuse towards her, made excuses for him, not to mention his 2 DUIs and why he couldn’t drive us places. I hope when my son is older (he’s only 2) I am able to find the strength to have this type of conversations with him. I don’t know where to find the words and you make it seem so easy but I know I need to be a better father. I’ve been following you for 3 years now and I like that you share with us this journey.

Sicilia - May 9, 2018 Reply

Thank you for sharing your parenting insights, Laura.

Andrea - May 16, 2018 Reply

Thank you for sharing these insights Laura. My husband is an alcoholic. Has been going to AA for more than 10 years and the topic is still very difficult to talk about with our kids -our oldest is 8. I know we need to, just don’t know how to get started.

Sandra Rose - May 29, 2018 Reply

I really liked this video. I found you by googling “how to talk to your kids about alcohol” and now I read all your posts! -seems like it. my father was an alcoholic an my mother tried to hide it. Nobody talked to me about anything! awful. Now my kids are getting older (6 and 8) and I want to find ways to talk to them that’s easy. Still a rough subject. I read all your posts on talking to kids and I’m encouraged. Thank you!

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